Wednesday, April 27, 2005
What to Expect?
People tell me that women change once they get married. I've witnessed this when my brother's have gotten married. Their wives take on a different personality. It hasn't been a Dr.Jeckel/Ms. Hyde but the differences in the before and after are quite stark.
I was concerned about this metamorphosis and spoke with the fiance concerning any potential change. She assured me that she is being true to herself now and that she can't imagine changing at all. This wasn't all that convincing.
She has already started to change. I've mentioned before about her change of tastes concerning the wedding from pre-engagement to now. We spoke about how we would like a wedding long before I gave her the ring. And everything that she said she wanted (of which I was in complete agreement) has changed to become the opposite. An intimate wedding and reception for only immediate family is now a large extravaganza for every person that ever said hello to us or gave us a birthday card (I'm exaggerating for effect).
I honestly don't think that women consciously know that they change. They probably at the very least consider it maturing. Well, I don't like surprises. I like my wife to be as she is. If she starts getting all absorbed in family politics and etiquette, then I can imagine some long and gruelling discussions to tell her that there is no reason to alter her personality.
I want to know the woman I'm marrying. Why else do we go through the lengthy courting, the engagement and living together if she's just going to change when she puts on a measly wedding band? Why not just have an arranged marriage or order a bride from Moscow if its going to be a surprise come wedding day?
I have faith that my girl won't change. Call me naive, but she knows I love her how she is and that nothing else is needed to prove that fact.
She's not going to change...
She's not!
Why can't I believe that?
I was concerned about this metamorphosis and spoke with the fiance concerning any potential change. She assured me that she is being true to herself now and that she can't imagine changing at all. This wasn't all that convincing.
She has already started to change. I've mentioned before about her change of tastes concerning the wedding from pre-engagement to now. We spoke about how we would like a wedding long before I gave her the ring. And everything that she said she wanted (of which I was in complete agreement) has changed to become the opposite. An intimate wedding and reception for only immediate family is now a large extravaganza for every person that ever said hello to us or gave us a birthday card (I'm exaggerating for effect).
I honestly don't think that women consciously know that they change. They probably at the very least consider it maturing. Well, I don't like surprises. I like my wife to be as she is. If she starts getting all absorbed in family politics and etiquette, then I can imagine some long and gruelling discussions to tell her that there is no reason to alter her personality.
I want to know the woman I'm marrying. Why else do we go through the lengthy courting, the engagement and living together if she's just going to change when she puts on a measly wedding band? Why not just have an arranged marriage or order a bride from Moscow if its going to be a surprise come wedding day?
I have faith that my girl won't change. Call me naive, but she knows I love her how she is and that nothing else is needed to prove that fact.
She's not going to change...
She's not!
Why can't I believe that?
# posted by T.S. Idiot @ 1:52 PM 
